Sub-titled The impossible journey that cannot be faked. Well…this is the start of an extended mini-series of topic specific content on the blog (under ‘charisma’, ‘rion kati’ and ‘soul starlet’).

Firstly; there’s a lot of inspired edu-tainment content I have for you the rest of this month so keep checking your emails; you never know what life-changing gold nuggets (snuggets) you might get all of a sudden.

It turns out I have a real knack not only for ladies finding their Beloved’s codex with 100% accuracy but I’m also damn good at helping them get more clarity on their own debut Starlet codex in the AvaStar consulting sessions.

“Brilliant” “Epic” said the 2 latest clients on the level of life-changing clarity consulting for THEIR visual debut.

I’m also going to be speaking to all kinds of things which can prevent you from being SEEN and having greater influence and connection with the people you are meant to influence (IN your divine truth). So keep checking the emails and blog…

As you may know, I’ve had incredibly brutal anxiety, insecurity and crippling visibility wounds. I mean very extreme cases of fugly duckling.

For years I’ve been the cozy ‘behind the scenes’ Lightworker who looks half schleppy going into zoom audio sessions with a low-mid grade webcam. One could say that I’ve actually the CLOSEST THING to someone ‘working in his pajamas’. Honestly, I’d just wear less if I could sometimes.

Alas; don’t fret…all of the light-working has been REAL without compromise but…the truth is, I’ve been ‘hiding out’ for years and years…building an epic foundation, YES but hiding out.

I know that I’m not only meant to share these gifts with the world publicly but actually literally with the world’s most famous celebrities (and I mean most all of them). I’m also meant to train the world’s TOP glow-up artists with Allure Priestess who will lead the world in allure makeovers.

So remember; when I was talking a lot about your Star/let codex for your debut or rebirth. This is what can give you the inspired clarity and confidence to move forward and that at least ONE of your archetypes you’re going to be VERY comfortable and familiar with.

My public Star codex is: The Muse Magician Rockstar. I’m INTEGRAL with Muse-Magician

But see, I was never ‘the rockstar’. That is the big challenge and in my case, the one that really transfigures it as undeniably SOCIAL and in great visible INFLUENCE. For you, there’s also going to be a weaker archetype which single-handedly is going to challenge your visibility wounds yet also provide THE MEDICINE for you to be in YOUR POWER and SERVICE.

For me it’s Rockstar and then Star but it’s the unique coding AS the Muse Magician.

For you, it may not literally be ‘Starlet’….Starlet may be more invisible but serves as the amplification and transfiguration OF your unique codex in divine service resolved of visibility wounds to the world so you can have the influence (and even make money) with the people you are ultimately meant to serve IN your fullest Beauty, codes and active service truth.

So the real challenge is that I was the guy behind the scenes, but I’ve realized (through Muse’ decree) that I am meant to not just be visible but be RIDICULOUSLY visible…and that means triggering ALLLLLL of my security related comfort and visibility issues.

Because something like THAT is massive identity level transformation.

Maybe YOUR gap is that there is one archetype that puts you IN your shameless public service and power but it THREATENS everything you are now and the comfort if you’ve been hiding out also.

I was the one who (as a 5/1 DEFINED cave living and endless internal seeking of security before being ready to ‘share with the world’.

This is me coming out of my cave to interact socially

Yes; there’s kind of an ugly go-getter beauty to him, but that’s not quite it. I represent the evolution of Beauty and charisma on the frontlines, so I am ESPECIALLY being tested because I have to become the testament of the brand and this work. For all my past fugliness, I have to become the swan…fortunately it is my truth in spirit; it just has to be accessed, embodied and expressed AGAINST ALL ODDS and subconscious sabotage (including the fugly duckling and quasimodo-gremlin).

I can’t tell you how much anxiety I’ve had.

But I was/am an extreme case of visibility wounds. I remember doing improv acting on stage at high school and I literally froze for 2 minutes while people were watching me to finish a skit.

All of this was REAL for me; a lifelong plague…and ironically it’s a prime HUMAN or incarnate shadow of the Muse line; performance anxiety.

One time I was at a famous internet marketing seminar in a beautiful ballroom for dinner and Yanik Silver had tables come together to form teams and work on some problem. There was a healthy competitive environment amongst them and at some point, I was like ‘give me the microphone, I’ve got a point to make’ and then I was standing and became radically self-conscious…

I saw and felt ALL of the eyeballs were on me (a few hundred people with their fancy glass chalices clinging, etc.) and I tried to hold my voice steady from cracking…

I don’t even remember what I said but I think I juts finished my sentence and sat down in humility. All I remember afterwards was he gave the microphone to a man who DID have public confidence and a strong accent…

Yanik had him say ‘fine Corinthian leathers’. I do remember that. I felt smaller than invisible.

BUT…That’s what inspired me to host 2 free live workshops in Houston to help overcome my speaking and visibility anxiety. When it started I was at the head of the table with around 14 men; half of whom flew in from around the country and it took me a few minutes of speaking to finally ‘drop into the zone’.

I was the one who still had so much performance anxiety before being invited to speak onstage in Montreal in 2006 as a ‘natural’ dating coach at the Cliff’s List convention that I was swigging shots of rum from a Malibu bottle in my hotel room BEFORE going on stage just to alleviate the anxiety.

Somehow I think it really helped and neutralized my performance jitters away.

I was the one who AT my first David DeAngelo seminar in Chicago at the end in 2005 waited in line and had so much ANXIETY built up just waiting to speak to him (b/c of the power dynamic mixed with my excitement of what I was doing) that I couldn’t slow my speaking down.

There’s a hidden clip of me somewhere online and you would be like ‘that can’t be Rion’.

I had so much anxiety in recording the ‘interview with dating guru’ of the month (in late 2007 or so) that I locked my Himalayan cat-boy in the bathroom so that I could focus record into the funny looking tape machine he had sent on the carpet of my Houston apartment while he and I talked on the device.

(Eben Pagan then invited me to SPEAK at the Man Transformation summit in L.A. which I think was in JAN. 2008 and I HAD to say yes despite having so much anxiety).

I had so much anxiety speaking on stage I didn’t know if I would ever get through it…there were several 100 people there with cameras recording.

Mortifyingly;

He kind of said through the microphone talking to a crew member (Royster productions I think) ‘Yeah this isn’t working’ as he walked towards stage.

Eventually HE STOPPED the cameras (or not to use them later) and took a big step in the front onto the stage/pulpit to ask me privately but in front of 100’s (mics off) if we could switch the format because it ‘just wasn’t working’ (but that he did value what I had to say). How would you feel in this exact scenario?

This was a BIG event and I’ve never seen anything like that happen…

I’ll share what happened at the very bottom.

But really; although I got better at speaking especially on a smaller scale and hosting small retreats; my images issues and anxieties further compounded because I knew I was meant for greatness. How am I going to LEAD the allure and charisma revolution movement WORLDWIDE if I DON’T overcome the deep ugliness and visibility wounds within?

Remember; I stayed ‘cozy’ for YEARS but I knew that I would eventually have to BE SEEN in order to truly have the INFLUENCE and impact my soul was meant to have (ESP. because it’s all so visual centric). And now; social media is WHERE IT’S AT. So whatever angle you look at it; we’re all influencers and the FULLEST version of yourself is SOME form of influencer…and if you’re triggered by influencer, then just redefine what it means because you and I have codes that MUST get out there…unless we allow the shadows, doubts, insecurities to sabotage us and keep us in an ILLUSION of safety.

I recently caught the MindValley ; as you may know Vishen Lakhiani is actually a long-time peer of mine. We literally had the same best friends in college when I was at UW-Madison and we would drive to U of M to party on some weekends. Anyways; he was saying that 2026 is the land-rush for FOUNDERS.

With the advent of AI accelerating, people are going to want more CONNECTION and trust with RELIABLE sources…not companies per se but the actual FOUNDERS and those who create and sculpt their brand ecosphere.

THIS is where social media is at now so if you’re not primed to BE SEEN and leverage social media, well this could be one of many ways in which you are holding back on your greater purpose (including BEING SEEN).

Your Star/let codex holds the IDENTITY level clarity and POWER for you to be in your highest truth, beauty, power and service in alignment with your soul purpose….it holds that for me, it holds it for you (whether you’re conscious of it or not).

Archetypes do not have the same problems we do…it’s really just about having a way to access and embody that encoded consciousness to mix and amplify your own soul codes.

And the public one for you probably holds THE KEYS to your greatness in social and spiritual influence.

So as far as me…..I was never the ROCKSTAR. It was just a secret obsessive pipe dream that I’ve had my whole life. I admired stars and secretly wanted to be one but I never felt like I was worthy,.

To be clear; I never had imposter syndrome (and you or others might); but speaking of myself I’ve had OTHER hardcore visibility wounds and anxieties in the extreme. But still; how am I going to be an influencer TO stars and starlets?

It seemed light years away. But my codex holds the power and the codes…I just had to find a way to step into ROCKSTAR which is the social amplification and an apex of attention for feminine Beauty and Beauty influencers to CHANGE THE GAME (it’s all Muse’ brilliant strategy to be honest).

How could the anxious, FUGLY duckling, insecure, hiding out version of me BE THAT embodied and non-fakeable version of myself?

Because remember; the highest status people are like HAWKS who can sniff out any posers or fakers so the POWER and self-image I have must be real (and divine). I have to be the real thing….I AM the real thing in ESSENCE (like you may be); it’s about EMBODIMMENT and expression in influence LIKE a star or starlet who can face, engage, inspire and MOVE the collective in the larger currents with your unique codes that are compelling and socially contagious.

THAT’S WHERE THE POWER OF THIS AVASTAR WORK COMES IN.

So…over this 2 weeks I’m going to be sharing more codes in and around my transformation as well as more Starlet codes related to overcoming extreme sabotage and codes around HOW to make real progress to be IN your power and codes against all odds in ‘being seen’.

And you know what?

My (Social) Rockstar era is beginning. It’s more important that OTHERS have the experience and affect of it; but it’s still important to have the INTERNAL compass of your my Star/let codex consciously so that you are ALIGNED.

I use the Beauty Sorcerer more publicly and the ‘brand’ is really Rion Kati and having influence as a real star/lightworker, etc. but as a ‘brand’ but I’m sharing this with you as part of my (and the) AvaStar process.

If you’re following me on Instagram, there’s a LOT going on in my JUST released video because (for me and you) the impossible is WITHIN REACH. It proves this work is real (oh and ‘miracles’ are already happening for the lady AvaStar clients). I’ll deconstruct what’s going on b/c in some way, I’m not ‘competing’ with the late Michael Hutchence of INXS, BUT we’re both 5/1’s and…well, stay tuned (or check it out now). I’ll speak to it soon.

STARDOM is the mid and long-term outlook but in a sense, I’m already a star in the work that I do and those sub-markets (now really post-debut and going visual public public).

OH; so what happened when I was speaking at the Man Transformation event when Eben Pagan/David DeAngelo stepped up on stage to STOP my speaking presentation (which was printed to DVD’s and sold as a product later)?

Well…they took a quick 4 minute stretch break to set up some couches and somehow that did the trick; we went into a sit-down interview format and it alleviated most of my anxiety and saved the day.

Yes, it’s THAT Eben Pagan famous marketer; he’s been a multi-millionaire for a long time. I actually have him LAUGHING…here’s a screen shot of that. I was doing a Mr. Anderson impression from Beavis & Butt-head.

I HAD TO DO BE THERE and speak because I had codes that NO ONE ELSE HAD in that industry; literally no one else was sharing this (and I was frustrated they weren’t), so I had to fight through my anxieties and do the right thing. I was still one of the very few ‘naturals’ in the dating and seduction industry back then.

I even had 1 man give me a standing ovation near the front left (speaker’s view). Fortunately overcoming my anxieties opened all kinds of doors for me b/c I knew that I HAD to do it or I couldn’t live with myself.

Stay tuned to more real world Star/let codes on the blog soon…and yes, the AvaStar Makeover is available.