Stage Fright Story: The Horror! The Industry Leader Stopped Me LIVE On-Stage

A true LIVE Stage speaking story with crippling anxiety. (This is a short form of the story which I’ve referenced before on the blog and just posted on IG).

 

 

(More details).

After doing a monthly interview with the industry leader in the online dating space (my business years ago), he invited me to speak at the premier LIVE EVENT in L.A. (David DeAngelo a.k.a. Eben Pagan who then went on to become a leading internet marketer and businessman multi-millionaire).

This was THE big event. It was too important so I just couldn’t cower back in total fear and compromise that I would end up hating and resenting myself for – even though I had debilitating public speaking anxiety.

So when I was there getting mic’ed up I was trying to look calm. But I HAD to get my codes out there b/c people weren’t speaking what I was.

HUNDREDS of people were there with professional video cameras rolling. I had no idea how I was going to get through it but KNEW that I had to TAKE THE RISK and opportunity to GET MY CODES OUT THERE at that time.

 

I couldn’t let myself be paralyzed…I HAD to face it directly…So…WhAt hApPenEd?!

 

(See images)

 

Yes…he actually (the industry leader) stepped UP ONTO STAGE to STOP ME. (Talk about irt humiliation?! The horror!)

 

It has to do with my concept of stand-up comedy vs. sit-down comedy…I was fine once we ‘sat down’.

 

Oh; I forgot to mention I ended up doing Beavis & Butt-head, Mr. Anderson impressions AND….1 man stood up at the end to give me a standing ovation…then others started standing to go on water break.

 

If I CAN FACE THE FEARS…I hope that will give my clients the ability. I’VE BEEN THERE (and have other stories).

 

I hope that gives some extra encouragement and strength as well as role modeling to MY AvaStar clients…I still did the right thing for getting visible.

 

B/c AFTER that appearance my business and brand thrived more AND had on-going new clients come in just from that one appearance…I was invited, KNEW it was the right thing to do to get more brand visibility exposure…I went through to FACE IT (through the fears instead of cowering into ‘safety’ or letting my shadows talk me out of it) and I did the right thing to get my codes (of that era) out there. 

 

Could YOU live with the regret of not getting out there with your brand and visibility?

 

THIS WAS BEFORE THE STAR CONSCIOUSNESS WORK so we can now accelerate resolution of anxiety too btw to LIVE as your Star self.

 

Discover the AvaStar makeover here for YOUR celebrity branding and BREAKTHROUGH with remaining performance anxiety, visibility wounding and getting ‘out there’.

 

You as a founder or influencer after all are your own social media brand (and full-timepublicist!)

From On-Stage Speaking Rejection to Essence Dance Breakthrough

First let me say that ESSENCE + DANCE is a secret to BILLIONS of views out there (that are NOT relying on AI hacking and algorithm trickery or sales market funnelteering). And that code is simply allure or charisma.

 

I’m going to share the link of my latest IG INXS video below that’s getting pretty awesome response on such a small scale. You can load it here or at the bottom.

 

In the last email (and blog post) I brought up how a millionaire live event host (mortifyingly) STOPPED my speech 1/3 way through by stepping up on stage in front of 100s of people at a live, recorded event in Los Angeles (as if I didn’t already have enough stage anxiety!) in 2008.

 

I think my pride prevented me from entirely collapsing as I listened to what he had to say with the mic volume cut down.

 

I shared how it all turned out at the end of that blog post (linked here: https://sexychi.com/my-fear-riddled-path-into-visibility-star-dom/ ) with a picture of him even LAUGHING on stage with me (fort. not AT me but because of me).

 

He later went on to become a semi-famous multi-millionaire (but in all transparency, I don’t think it was directly related to OUR interview however 😉

 

This was just PART of my path and struggles in becoming more visible and being seen…in getting my codes out there because NO ONE ELSE WAS. I represented something NATURAL and authentic in an era of fake pick-up artistry and the manipulation.

 

Yes; I was in the ‘dating’ industry as a top natural dating coach online quite a while ago, but it’s the same concept of being in my truth and BEING SEEN (and actually these were earlier Muse codes but transmitted in a very different way and for single men).

 

And yes; I locked my Himalayan cat in the bathroom while I was recording the big Interview of the Month with him as the #1 dating brand online to help focus and quell my anxiety.have

 

Since then (although I improved with small scale public speaking anxieties and hosting) my image anxieties actually only amplified.

 

If you’ve also had it;

 

Public speaking anxiety-fear can crossover with ANY of the other reasons that can prevent you or I from being seen…it’s just EASIER and safer NOT to do it..not to go through those doors and come up with fancy excuses as to why not.

 

But how are you going to have the INFLUENCE you’re meant to have if you keep hiding out?!

 

But I’m on such a big soul purpose that I CANNOT compromise. ALSO, I’m not big on the ‘aging’ thing so it’s good I/we can anti-age with this pro energy work. There’s other things I still have to do.

 

And I don’t know about you, but I realize that this actually IS a Star path (and a King’s path)…not just one of being more publicly visible. What are YOUR codes? We can find out in the AvaStar Makeover.

 

AvaStar Makeover

 

So the rest of this month (and in living by example); I’m going to talk more about the ‘reality’ of overcoming major hurdles, onstage hurls and breakthrough codes related to being seen in y/our TRUTH.

 

We’re in an era where SOCIAL MEDIA is here to stay and so much of your influence is going to be through social media. If you want to grow a following, yes your Star/let codex (whether it literally includes Starlet or not) is CENTRAL to pulling your ALIGNMENT, truth, embodiment and expression TOGETHER.

 

Your Star or Starlet Codex gives you the CONFIDENCE and ALIGNMENT to be empowered in your Truth and face the world.

 

But there can still be SOOOO many unconscious or conscious sabotaging things that can stop you from going big and being seen.

 

I’m going to keep speaking to those this month (which may delay the already belated World’s Top 10 Muse list for 2025 but I promise I’ll get to that as well).

 

For right now; one of those hidden signifiers of whether I’m in my truth and influence or not is whether I dance.

 

So the question is; could you semi-awkwardly dance in front of the world to see right now?

 

Or…how much RESISTANCE would you have to doing it? Because that alone might be a major key.

 

WELL in spite of having all kinds of past struggles, flash forward to today post-debut and….I’M DOING IT. I know that celebrities are going to see these videos too.

 

In the next email (a.k.a. blog post); I’m going go to deeper into my own secret FEAR of Dance, what it represents, how much it’s held things back and how it’s a silver bullet highway to AUTHENTIC TRUTH TRANSMISSION, RESPONSE, engagement and being FELT and seen…

 

DANCE is a secret and not so secret key to opening up my charisma (and your allure) as well as dissipating DEEP shadow grid entropy and gravity around being seen.

 

If you have been RESISTING IT and being SEEN dancing or annoyed or even secretly envious of others and how viral THEY have gone; you may have other very deep and HEAVY blocks to exploding your own influence and engagement.

 

It’s meant as a qualifying gauge here of where there may be deeper resistances in your psyche towards BEING SEEN and felt (whether you ever make fun dance related content or not).

 

For right now here; I’m going to post my latest Instagram video and it has a WHOPPING 10% love rate with engagement and new followership.

 

I’ll go more into the breakthrough underpinnings and the leverage point of DANCE (+ my own Dance-Visibility fears) in the next transmission.

 

I had to give myself permission and there may be secret ways in which your OWN shadow grid is PREVENTING you (for years) from truly being SEEN.

 

But once people can FEEL you, even if it’s imperfect at least you’re THRIVING.

 

There’s actually a lot of codes going on with major takeaway lessons for your own public soul visibility breakthrough b/c not only is it objectively charismatic but I’m BRIDGING into the impossible archetypes before in a way that could be LIFE-CHANGING for you as well if you have a known archetype or siddhic quality that you desire in your fuller expression for greater social impact.

 

-Rion

 

p.s. Here’s that INXS inspired pre-dance video and look for ‘cheeseface’ in it:

 

 
 
 
 
 
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Remember; I’ve been alpha-testing my OWN Avatar Star self embodiment (and been doing double dan tien/kundalini activations per week as well as foundational structure).

 

That I’ve broken through myself with ESSENCE + dance with stable enough charisma factor is huge b/c this is already a secret to billions of views out there and you can find YOUR way of replicating it.

 

Check out my Elvis inspired ‘Hound Dog’ video here (with similar like/love ratio!)

 

https://www.instagram.com/p/DTQnopAjeDL/